Are you Working for a Narcissist?


You may not know it, but you may be working for a narcissist. These people are very toxic to your wellbeing, so stay away from the, as much as you can or stop associating with them altogether. It will be the best thing you will ever do for yourself.

Here are some questions you should ask yourself:king

  1. Do you know someone who is conceited, but in REALITY has nothing to be conceited about?
  2. Do you know someone who is pretentious (fake)?
  3. Do you know someone who talks over you?
  4. Do you know someone who sees you as inferior to them?
  5. Do you know someone who thinks they are entitled to something?
  6. Do you know someone who doesn’t handle criticism well and in response to make themselves feel better, react angrily or talk down to someone?
  7. Do you know someone who is depressed or moody?
  8. Do you know someone that envies others but believes that others envies them?

I answered “Yes” to all of these questions:

I had an employer who bragged about their great work, but that was FAR from the truth. Reality check! People that do great work do not need to brag, because their work shines. Also, reviews on review sites will prove how great a work an employer is doing and clearly it showed the work was not great.

I had several pretentious employers and employees. I know how to weed them out by now. Listen to your gut. If something in your gut doesn’t feel right, then you know something is not right with the person. Do NOT trust them with anything. If you must work with them, keep it work related and professional. I had an employer who acted like they cares about my issues, but found out other people’s problems makes them feel happy. How sick is that?

nothingSomeone who talks over you is someone who is trying to be a “big shot” who is more superior than you in the profession. In reality, they are not as superior as they think out of the office. They are NOTHING outside of their office. They are the most miserable people on earth. Their life at home is NOT great. It makes them feel better when they talk over you, but once the work day is over, they go home to their miserable lives and the cycle repeats the next day.
I had an employer that got angry around EVERY pay period. When people asked for their paychecks, she acted like we should work for her for FREE. As if we OWED her something and she was entitled to not pay us! Excuse me?! Nobody works for free, unless they volunteer to work. That is different though. In this case, nobody would volunteer to work for this employer for free.

When my past employer for confronted  by employees about how disrespectful she was on how she treated her staff, she got defensive and angry. The truth hurts, but she can’t see how she treats people badly. She still treats her staff badly currently. I don’t know many employers who can change to be a better employer when they have gotten to this point. They need help, but you know they will be in denial that they have an actual problem, because they think they are PERFECT.

I had an employer who would come to work moody every morning. It’s like he woke up on the wrong side of the bed every morning. The only way he would be in a better mood was if he made up lies and made fun of his employees in from of his patients. How pathetic is that? If you hate your job or your life, change it. Nobody wants to work with a sour puss.

envyI had an employer who thought people envied her. Why? Because she drove a nice car and had a building for her office? Nobody envied her. Smart people saw right through her. People felt sorry for her, because she was so mean to people that nobody wanted anything to do with her outside of work. She didn’t have any friends. Maybe one, but they would fight and not talk a while and then back being friends again. It is childish. Envy? I think not.

I put up with nonsense for 2.5 years. I saw how it effected my wellbeing. I had to make a change or her narcissism would rub off on me like it did on her long time staff, which is less than a handful.

If you are working for a narcissist, you can choose to stay where you are at. But let me tell you, it is draining dealing with these kind of people. They suck the life and joy out of you. I have had a few narcissist in my life. When I cut ties with them completely, it was a HUGE relief and I could enjoy life and be happy again.

happySo what is the solution to this problem?

You can try to get them help, but most times they don’t respond well. Ending a relationship with a narcissist would do you more good than harm. Have you been wanting to be your own boss, but don’t know where to start? Watch my video and read my review at Wealthy Affiliate to learn more. This was the best decision I made in joining Wealthy Affiliate and I am able to be my own boss. Have you asked yourself if you are happy? And thought about what is causing your unhappiness?

Are you working for a narcissist? Have you ever? Please share below. I would love to hear about it.

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  • Julius

    Hello Sofia, I just recently accidentally discovered your blog, and I really like it. It seems that you really want to help people, and I appreciate it!

    You’ve chosen very relevant topics here. A lot of people are narcissistic these days. It can be really irritating to be around a person like that.

    • Sofia

      Hi Julius,

      I have been working with people 1-on1 for 15 years. I am not a psychologist, but people do open up and share their struggles with me. Most of them don’t like their jobs. I am glad you found my blog. I do want to help people. At the same time, I can’t help if they aren’t willing to help themselves by making the first step.

      Thanks for your comment and you are welcome,


  • I don’t know if I worked for a narcissist, but I definitely dated one! 🙂
    Either way, there are people out there who have no conscience. I define a narcissist also as someone who will tell you what you want to hear, but then do whatever they feel like behind your back. (In other words, LIE without blinking an eye.) And everything to a narcissist is about “appearances” and how they can use people for their own gain. In other words, they don’t have their priorities straight! They have no comprehension of what it might feel like to be on the other end. They simply don’t grasp it.

    • Hi Debbie,
      Thanks for commenting. Yes, these type of people have issues that they don’t see as an issue but there’s a real condition that these people fall into. It is really sad that some people don’t feel that these people are not right. I can spot these kind of people from afar and I will NOT have anything to do with them. It isn’t healthy for the other person to be surrounded by these kinds of twisted person. They don’t show any compassion at all. You are right, they will use you for their own gain and they will do stuff or say stuff behind your back. My previous employer was a WITCH with a B. She would be real mean, talk to you like you are nothing. Then, when she wanted something she was disgustingly fake nice. This tricked me a few times and I was like, “Well maybe she’s being nice from now on.” Boy was I wrong. Once she got what she wanted, she was back to her B self again. Never did I get fooled again. Who’s laughing now? LOL..I am. She lost the best worker she would ever have in a lifetime.

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