Working with a Narcissist

bullyHave you ever worked with someone who was a bully, a “know-it-all?” Unfortunately, there is always one person at work, school or home that is a narcissist. 

What is a Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

According to Wikipedia:

“A narcissistic personality disorder is a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior followed by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of understanding of others’ feelings.”

Can it be cured?

No, but treatment can help.

How do you know if you have the disorder?

Must be medically diagnosed by a medical professional.


What causes this disorder?

Unknown, genetic, or environmental

What are signs of a narcissistic personality disorder?

-Excessive need for admiration

-Inability to handle criticism

-Sense of entitlement

-I’m right. You’re wrong

-Get’s angry to get her way


How to avoid a narcissist?

If you have to be in the same environment, then you want to stay as far away from them as possible. These people are toxic and are not worth being in your life. 

If your family member is one, I can’t tell you what to do, but my mom is one. I made the decision to cut her out of my life. Being around people like that will often rub off on you. It is like someone who is a bad influence that rubs off on you when you hang out with them a lot. 

Although I can’t avoid the narcissist at work, I only talk to her if it is necessary. Unfortunately, I have to work right next to her so I have to hear her loud bragging of herself all day long. It is pretty annoying.


I have made the decision if it is not mandatory, I will not participate in any outings. Why should I have to endure that on my own time? I don’t care what they think about me. It’s my way of staying sane and keeping the peace. Although, most days I want to tell her off.

I have to remind myself to be the better person. Usually, I notice people who are narcissist are very negative people and are not happy with themselves. What these people do to us is wrong and karma will get them if it hasn’t already. We have to stay positive, remind ourselves what we are grateful for and keep on working at our goal.


I worry that my mom’s narcissistic disorder may be passed on to me, but when I look at the signs, I don’t fall into those signs. I am the direct opposite of those signs above. Phew! I never want to become like her, so I work really hard to never be like her. So far, so good. I am nothing like her. 

One goal I am working on is to be able to work online full time. In order to do this, I needed to build a website. I had no idea how to do that until I stumbled across Wealthy Affiliate. This program has taught me a lot. Although I can’t work online as much as I want, I still try to fit in time whenever I can. This is my way out to eventually get rid of having to be around a narcissist.

How do you deal with a narcissist? Are you friends with one? Please share your experience, comments or questions below.






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What is the Meaning of Nightmares?


Have you ever had a nightmare where you woke up from your sleep and still remembered what the dream was about? I had one this morning and I was so angry that I got up and went to the gym earlier than usual to work out that anger. 

By the time I was finished at the gym, I had cooled off. What bothered me was why I am still having nightmares of this specific person if she has been out of my life for 2.5 years. So, I did a little research to find the meaning of the nightmare.

I concluded that my nightmare fell into the category of being attacked. This means that I have difficulty facing something in my life or run away from it. The method of how I escape from being attacked is important too: run away or hide.

In my nightmare, somehow I ended up being at the office I resigned from over 2 years ago. It was strange, because I was not a permanent employee, but somehow ended up doing temporary work. It’s a nightmare, so it’s going to be strange. I worked the day and before I left the office, I asked for my paycheck. Sure enough, everything on the check was written wrong. 

This employer does things on purpose to piss people off all the time. She’s just messed up like that. This wasn’t new to me, because when I really worked there, I NEVER got paid on time. That was one of the many reasons why I resigned.

bad-checkShe is known to write bad checks, too. A few minutes had passed by and she was about to walk out the door. So, I got her attention, “Um, I’m still waiting on my paycheck.” She goes back into her office and she gets her “new husband” to write me the check and the amount was wrong again!

At this point, I was furious. I pretty much told him how much I’m supposed to get paid. Then, I told her my real reason why I resigned. I told her that, “You treat everyone badly, you never paid people their paychecks on time, you have money issues that effect all the employees, and you are a crooked employer. I will NEVER work for you ever in my lifetime!”

I got my paycheck and left that god awful place. Then, I woke up. If I have to interpret why this happened, I think it was because when I resigned, I gave my two weeks resignation letter without a reason of why I was resigning. She asked me in person why I was resigning, which I had told her “Nothing is going to change.”

This seems like a very vague reason, but her office was run very poorly, it was not organized and she talks about “things needing to change,” but she really needed to change as a person.

professionalI think it was a nightmare for me, because when I really resigned, I wanted to tell her off. What held me back? I wanted to stay professional, so I left without any conflict and in good terms.

I don’t think I ran away or hid in the nightmare. I actually confronted her. In real life, I don’t think I ran away or hid. If I had ran away, I wouldn’t have given my 2 weeks notice and had to suffer my last 2 weeks at that place.

I think this nightmare appeared because the 2.5 years I worked there, it was very traumatic emotionally. It was truly a nightmare the whole 2.5 years I worked there. Have you ever went to a dentist who wears a large orange wig and puts make-up on like a clown everyday? Anyone who doesn’t have a fear to clowns or dentists may soon have a fear to them. She was the type of person who finds anything and everything to yell at you about.

When pay day comes around, she acted like everyone didn’t deserve a paycheck and that we should all work for her for free. I got fed up and realized my happiness was more important than working for her.

After resigning, the first year, I still had nightmares that I still worked there. As time passed, I realized that will never happen and why would I put myself in that type of situation again and the nightmares appeared less frequently. I believe I am healing and as more time passes, she will never get into my dreams, again.

bottled-up-feelingsDuring the time that I worked there, I didn’t have many people to talk to about what I was going through. Or if I tried to tell people about it, they probably wouldn’t believe me. Not until I started to talk about it after I resigned, which I believe started to have a therapeutic effect. Now, I believe that if one has an issue, they shouldn’t try to hold it in. It has long term damaging effects. For me, it’s the nightmares.

I actually know a few coworkers that had quit and went back to work for her. Why? More money. Is it worth it? No, not in my opinion. Then why? They like being abused? They think it’s okay to get treated like that. Are they happy? From my perspective, they aren’t but they like to make people believe they are.

After that experience with her, I have kept my guard up with future employers. Can you believe there are more bad employers than good employers out there? That’s why I have chosen to consider my other options. My other option is to become my own boss  by building my own business online. This takes out having to encounter a horrible boss, because you are your own boss.

As I was researching online on how to do this, I came across a program that teaches how to do this. Read my review of Wealthy Affiliate if you would like to learn more.  Do you get nightmares? Do you research on the meaning of your nightmare? Please share your experience, comments or questions below.






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Learning From An Interview

interviewI was considering adding another work day to my work week last week, so I applied for a job. I learned during the interview that my heart wasn’t into it. The interview took all of 5 minutes. The questions they asked me were really stupid questions that they could have asked me over the phone. That would have saved me gas and my time driving over there on my day off.

Honestly, I think interviews are stupid in my field. Anyone can say the right stuff, but what really matters is what they can actually do while working. After I left the interview, I wasn’t sad or anything. I had many job offers that I turned down for certain reasons.

hostile-employerI have learned from the past even if I got hired for a job, I would request to work a day to get a feel of the working environment. If someone hires you right after an interview, be wary. Maybe you are the best candidate for the job, but if you accept the job and then start working and realize the work environment is horrible. Then, you are in a predicament.

In the past, I would be sad I didn’t get the job, but I just went on with my day like a regular day off and did what I wanted to do without a  worry in my mind. I think my heart is focused on another job opportunity that I see myself doing full time sooner than later.

This job opportunity involves working online and building a business where I can work anytime and anywhere I want. I can’t completely focus on this job opportunity, because it isn’t earning a full time income for me yet. So, I still have to physically go to a job. When I reflected why I even decided to add another day, I asked myself, “what was I thinking?”

If I added another day, that would be less time I can work on building my business online. I know building a business takes time, but if I can work on it more then maybe that will shorten the time I will have to work physically at a job.
I have always been very independent from when I was young. Maybe that is why I rather work by myself. It definitely avoids having to work with people you rather not work with or have unnecessary drama. From when I was young, I learned how to read people from a distance. I stayed away from people that I rather not be associated with.

work-at-homeI already know where I want to retire, but to make that happen, I want to have a full time income working from home way before then. I know that when one works from home, the downfall is you are never really off the clock. I think that’s the only negative about it, but all the other positive reasons overrules that one thing.

I think if we make a schedule for ourselves and follow it, then one can get off the clock. Unless you are a workaholic, then keep on working. I have been working for a long time and I believe there should be a balance between work and life. I think working too much and not having a life is not truly living. I personally believe it affects the mood and health of people. I see it all the time.

The lesson I learned here is don’t go on anymore interviews. I finally opened my eyes and realized it’s a waste of my time and my heart isn’t truly into it, so work on what your heart is into until your heart’s content. Even though my heart isn’t into it, I always continue to give patients the best care I can. I still do my job the best that I can do, because I didn’t go to college just to throw it all away. I have wanted to be my profession for a while, so I better appreciate that I have accomplished my career goal.

retirementAs we get older, we think about the future. We have to plan for things we don’t really want to plan for, like retirement. Who wants to get older?  I know I wish I could stay a certain age forever. I know that’s impossible. We have to face reality.

Before I was an adult, I wished the time would pass by faster. Boy, it isn’t as glamorous as I expected. If I could turn back time, I think I would enjoy the simple things of a child growing up instead of trying to grow up too fast. A little too late. We learn from experience.

I find it strange that my mind and heart don’t communicate well with each other. One thinks about one thing and the other thinks about something else. If they both agreed on one thing, it would make life a little less complicated. The lesson learned from this interview is to listen to your mind and your heart.

What have you learned during an interview? Life is a learning experience. We grow when we are willing to learn. Please share your experience, questions or comments below.






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Work Work Work Work



Last week, I had a temporary work assignment. It was Columbus day and kids had the day off from school. So, guess what? The schedule was so busy. Ridiculously, busy. I don’t mind working, but when it becomes like a line factory, that is when I dislike it.

I was contacted the night before by the temporary agency. I have no idea why I agreed to it, because I had all intentions of having the day off. When you work for a temporary agency, you never know when there will be work or not.

If you work an eight hour day, a normal amount of patients for the day is 8 patients. That day, there was 14 patients. I really felt like someone changing tires on a race track. I didn’t even have time to have a nice conversation with the patient. I know that if I made too much conversation with the patients, I would have ran behind.

I disagree with how they scheduled the schedule and on top of that, they put two more patients on my schedule when they weren’t scheduled on my side. I thought that was inconsiderate, because my patient that I had on the schedule was already here so she was seen 30 minutes later.

speedy-gonzalezI should have worked slower, so that they didn’t take advantage that I could handle the workload. It just isn’t in my nature. I don’t know what it is, but even years before when I was a dental assistant, there were coworkers who worked slow on purpose so they don’t have to work on complicated procedures. If I tried to work slow, I would still finish my work fast. My nickname was “Speedy Gonzalez.” I couldn’t help it.

I don’t like messing around. If I need to get work done, I will do it efficiently until it is done. Surprisingly, I must have taught this myself because I did not learn this from my parent’s. They haven’t taught me much growing up.

The parent probably looked at me like why am I running behind, but I just kept on working. I knew that it was the only and last day I will work there. Luckily, I had an assistant who helped me clean my rooms. I would have ran really behind if I didn’t have an assistant.

It is my pet peave when I run late when it isn’t my fault. I am considerate of people’s time and I see my patients on time majority of the time. I know they have a life and I don’t want to interfere with their busy schedule. That is just the way I am.

The dentist asked me if I was used to being that busy. I replied, “yes.” She didn’t know my background or where I worked before. She was shocked with my reply, but I wasn’t going to complain because I have to stay professional to represent the temporary agency.

Years ago, when I worked as a dental assistant for an orthodontic office, the most patients they would see was 200 in a day. We had about 8 assistants, so we did our share of work. With that many patients, you have to work efficiently. It is different in my position, because there isn’t anyone else taking my patients if I run behind.

factory-lineWhen I first relocated to another state, I worked at a corporate dental office. Have you been to those? The ones with many different locations? Treats you like a number instead of a patient? Were you treated like how many patients they can get in and out as fast as they can like a factory line?

Well, I stuck it out for 7 months and it was miserable. I have my beliefs. I went to school and learned about ethics and what they were doing was outrageous. I promised myself if they EVER talked to me about production, I would quit.

That day came when they threatened to pay me per patient instead of per hour if my production didn’t increase. I can’t increase my production when they have inexperienced front staff working. So, the next day, I worked my day and at the end of the day, I stayed professional and told the manager, “Today is my last day because this isn’t the right working environment for me.”

I didn’t have a plan or a job, but I knew that was the best thing for me to do. When I walked out that door for the last time, it was such a great feeling. I vowed to myself I would never work for a corporate office again. Every corporate office I have encountered is all about how much money they can make.

They like to hire people with no experience so they can pay them dirt cheap. Who gets effected? The back office. The company doesn’t treat their employees well, either. They treat them like slaves. Every morning, they talk about production goals. I thought it was ridiculous. So, patients were seen as dollar signs instead of actual people they cared about.

That was the difference between me and them. I treat people the way I want to be treated. I wasn’t going to decrease my quality of care to my patients because they wanted to make more money. That is still my belief today and whenever I have to go to an office for temporary work that I don’t agree with their protocols, I deny the job.

One good thing that came out of working that day was I had a good night’s sleep. Once I laid my head down on my pillow, it didn’t take less than a minute to be sound asleep. Well, I was exhausted along with the one hour commute each way. 

Life is too short to be miserable. You can control your life and happiness. I would like to retire earlier than 65. I would like to be able to work anywhere in the world. After a few bad experiences with twisted employers, I decided to finally pursue working online. That is when I found Wealthy Affiliate to get me started. Read my review to learn more about Wealthy Affiliate.

Do you get overworked on a daily basis? Please share your experience, questions or comments below.






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Do You Have Perseverance?


Perseverance is not giving up on something because you don’t see results right away or it is hard. I don’t think things get handed to people real easily when they know what they want to do in life. For some, yes, but they are not our main focus. Do you have perseverance to reach your goal?

money-treeWhen I first began my journey with Wealthy Affiliate, I had some hiccups, but I kept at it. I didn’t give up. Once I accomplished what I needed to do, I felt a sense of satisfaction. Money doesn’t grow on trees as we all know. We have to work to earn money.

I have been on this journey to becoming a full time online entrepreneur for 7 months and although I am not further along than I want to be, I am still making the time to work on my website. I can only push myself so much before going into exhaustion. If I am exhausted, then what good would it do for me. I won’t be productive and probably will make a bunch of mistakes.

Trust me, I tried to push myself to keep working even though my mind was not there. It just leads to frustration and stress that you shouldn’t put upon yourself. Take a break or come back to it once you are more energized. Listen to your body. You only have one, so you must take care of your health.

Yesterday, I was making an omelette. Usually, when I am not exhausted, my omelettes come out pretty good. I was so tired, what was supposed to look like an omelette looked more like someone’s vomit. I knew I was tired, which I pushed myself to keep going which I shouldn’t have. Just an example of making mistakes.

If you don’t already know, I still have to go to a 8-5 job. Like many people, they have bills and responsibilities that come first. Some days, I have the energy to work on my website and others, I just don’t. When it comes to what I want in life, I never gave up on it.

happyI know too many people that give up on things when it is too hard or they just don’t want to work hard. What they don’t realize is that the benefits will be worth it at the end. Not giving up will help us live a better and happier life.

For example, I wanted to move out of my parent’s house sooner than 18, go to college, buy a house, get a job, move out of state, so I worked hard to make it happen. It didn’t come easy and there were many struggles I had to go through to reach these goals, but I am glad I didn’t give up.

Yes, everything I listed above was hard for me. I stayed motivated and kept working at it. Eventually, my work paid off. My biggest regret would have been giving up when things got hard, which I had that in the back of my mind a couple times.

In the past, I have given up on my goal of working online, but I am back at it again. I’m not sure I really wanted it or it was because I couldn’t get the help that I needed to succeed. Since finding Wealthy Affiliate, I have not given up and I have continually worked on reaching my goal. I know I really want to work online now. Of course, as we mature, we get wiser too.

When I first started at Wealthy Affiliate, I was scared. Everything was pretty new to me since I didn’t have any computer background in terms of having a website or building a website. Having a platform that made it easy to build a website and then a program that teaches you how to put content and customize my website helped banish that fear away. If you would like to learn more about the platform, read my review of Wealthy Affiliate.

Do you have perseverance? Please share your experience, comments or questions below.






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