Have you ever worked with someone who was a bully, a “know-it-all?” Unfortunately, there is always one person at work, school or home that is a narcissist.
What is a Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
According to Wikipedia:
“A narcissistic personality disorder is a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior followed by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of understanding of others’ feelings.”
Can it be cured?
No, but treatment can help.
How do you know if you have the disorder?
Must be medically diagnosed by a medical professional.
What causes this disorder?
Unknown, genetic, or environmental
What are signs of a narcissistic personality disorder?
-Excessive need for admiration
-Inability to handle criticism
-Sense of entitlement
-I’m right. You’re wrong
-Get’s angry to get her way
How to avoid a narcissist?
If you have to be in the same environment, then you want to stay as far away from them as possible. These people are toxic and are not worth being in your life.
If your family member is one, I can’t tell you what to do, but my mom is one. I made the decision to cut her out of my life. Being around people like that will often rub off on you. It is like someone who is a bad influence that rubs off on you when you hang out with them a lot.
Although I can’t avoid the narcissist at work, I only talk to her if it is necessary. Unfortunately, I have to work right next to her so I have to hear her loud bragging of herself all day long. It is pretty annoying.
I have made the decision if it is not mandatory, I will not participate in any outings. Why should I have to endure that on my own time? I don’t care what they think about me. It’s my way of staying sane and keeping the peace. Although, most days I want to tell her off.
I have to remind myself to be the better person. Usually, I notice people who are narcissist are very negative people and are not happy with themselves. What these people do to us is wrong and karma will get them if it hasn’t already. We have to stay positive, remind ourselves what we are grateful for and keep on working at our goal.
I worry that my mom’s narcissistic disorder may be passed on to me, but when I look at the signs, I don’t fall into those signs. I am the direct opposite of those signs above. Phew! I never want to become like her, so I work really hard to never be like her. So far, so good. I am nothing like her.
One goal I am working on is to be able to work online full time. In order to do this, I needed to build a website. I had no idea how to do that until I stumbled across Wealthy Affiliate. This program has taught me a lot. Although I can’t work online as much as I want, I still try to fit in time whenever I can. This is my way out to eventually get rid of having to be around a narcissist.
How do you deal with a narcissist? Are you friends with one? Please share your experience, comments or questions below.
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